Mantra of the Day: I Don’t Know

My 4 (almost 5) year old has been struggling to accept the reality that no one knows everything and that includes him. He hates being wrong.  He hates not knowing the plan.  He does not like not to be “in the know.”ETSY COVER.png

And, as all parents know, when you are teaching your kids these type of life lessons, you often end up learning a whole lot, as well. You get reminded of the basics.  As adults, we forget the simple things in life like accepting fault, saying sorry, giving a hug or just saying “I do not know” can have serious impact on our life and happiness.

Do you hate not knowing things?  Are you the kind of person who gets frustrated when you feel like you are unsure of your future?  Do you get irritable or nervous when you are criticized or told that you are wrong?

If so, listen to this – admitting, even just to yourself, that you do not know something/everything/anything is super, duper, super, extra, awesomely freeing.

You cannot possibly know everything. You may not even know what will happen tomorrow. Or, you may think you have a plan only to realize that you need to reevaluate that plan.

The inability to see the future, know where we go when we die, or understand complex biological phenomena is an ongoing frustration for us humans.  And, that is where so many of us turn to religion.  For some, this can spell trouble. 

(If you are a new reader, please let me say in the most respectful manner that I do not believe in God and I am not a religious person.  But, there is no reason that you cannot apply this mantra to your life in any way that you see fit.)

So, practice saying to yourself:


When you ask yourself…

Where will I end up in my career?

How will my kids turn out?

What will my husband do for my birthday?


… instead of getting anxious or worried at the uncertainty just sit quietly with the sense that you don’t know.  This is not because you are dumb, lack perceptiveness or are doing anything wrong. The human experience is largely made up of not knowing, learning as we go and trying our best.

So, what should you do with this mantra?  How should you use it?

I don’t know.

2 thoughts on “Mantra of the Day: I Don’t Know

  1. My nephew’s the same age and much the same way. He expects everyone else to know what he knows and to know who he knows. He’s also not mastered some of the finer points of pronunciation – so when he asks about “mega” (that is, Captain America) you have two guesses before he gets angry and storms off because you couldn’t understand him. He doesn’t yet realize that there is a considerable gap between what he knows and what other people know. In his book, he knows everything worth knowing. He does tend to fall back on “I don’t know” quite a lot though, but only when he’s asked questions he doesn’t already have the answer to. I wonder what it is about that age where they think they know everything that’s worth knowing and yet don’t understand that other people know a lot more than they do. I tried to teach him a few words of Spanish, but he couldn’t understand the concept and started talking gibberish – approximating the sound in a made-up way and running off to do his own thing.

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