The process of losing ourselves and then finding ourselves all over again seems to be an inconvenient, and exhausting, part of the human experience. But, no matter how tired we get, we have to keep seeking ourselves out.
I know this sounds deep and a little “hippie dippie” but the reality is that, though we fight it and beg it not to be true, we only have ourselves in this world. If we cannot find a way to treat ourselves with care and love, then we can’t ever be truly happy and healthy.
Our deepest insecurities are often rooted in the notion that we are simply not good enough. And, who has told us that?
Maybe our faith, maybe our parents, maybe our culture, maybe our own spouses and friends. And, believe me, I know that those messages wound deeply. I struggle with it every day. The same way that I often work hard at loving my kids, my husband and my friends – I work to find ways to love myself. Even when it is hard. Even when I am being a pain in the ass.
It’s important to question any messages that we receive from anyone about who we are. Consider the source of the information and weigh it against the evidence that you have. Think critically. Do it with everything, but in particular, be sure to do it when people start telling you who YOU are.
Take a look at this video from Buzzfeed to see just how easy it can be to be convinced of someone else’s vision of who you are AND where you are headed.